Basically my only problem is I have a set of individual vcard that I have separate links going to each one. The only problem is when the user clicks on the link it opens the file and does not save. What I need is to know exactly how to have the link when clicked upon, open up a open save cancel dialogue box. I currently do not have any code, but if i use code php is the language I would rather use.Thanks for the help

Best solution is to offer 'right click save as' instead of forcing download.

You could use .htaccess in your download directory written

 <Files *.vcf >
  ForceType application/octet-stream
  Header set Content-Disposition attachment
</Files>

This may work for Mozilla clients but IE may cause problems.

Could you not zip the .vcf files as zips always force a download.

Also theres a scripting solution by linking your vcf file to 'download.php' script. This is a possible solution for a single file only which is hard coded into the script. There are security issues if done dynamically although sure theres a solution if you Google it. This script hasn't been tested - but something along these lines.

// download.php

$path = "foo.vcf"; // hard coded vcf file here
try {
if (is_file ($path)){
if ($file = fopen($path, 'rb')) {
while(!feof($file) and (connection_status()==0)) {
$f .= fread($file, 1024*8);
}
fclose($file);
}
//Use the header function 
$outputname = "anyName";
header ("Content-type: text/x-vcard ");
//This will force a download.
header("Content-disposition: attachment; filename=".$outputname.".vcf");
print $f;
} else {
throw new exception ("Sorry, file path is not valid.");
}
} catch (exception $e){
echo $e->getmessage();
}