so pleas can some one recomend a good ftp program that you use that can do big lists.
I like WebMaestro; I better, I wrote it. I've given it upload lists of as many as about 200 files, and it's done fine with them. But the main reason I wrote this is none of the other FTP clients are really made for web masters, and the upload feature in DW isn't very good. This will profile the local version of your site, and keep track of which files you've changed, so you don't have to go through your directory structure to find them to be able to send them up.
FileZilla for me. Free and does the job how you'd want
I used FTP for a while but it is not free anymore so I found FileZilla as well and even though it is missing some of the bells and whistles of FTP it does a fine job.